This workbook is different from other books about attention deficit disorder, because it was written from the perspective of a non-ADD partner. These pages don't focus on taking care of your ADD spouse or making your relationship work. They are about taking care of yourself. Consequently, as you become healthier and happier, your partner may reap the benefits and your relationship could get better.
The main message of this book is that sometimes it's okay and even imperative to put yourself first. (Or at least second, if you have kids!) Living with and loving a partner with ADD can be tough at times, and you deserve special care and support. This book is for you.

Customer Reviews:

Avg. Customer Rating: 4.0 / 5.0

A helpful start on the path towards healing:

I credit Mimi Handlin for tackling this seldom recognized subject. For years, even clinicians who should have known better not only ignored the impact of an adult's untreated ADHD on the partner, they also put a bigger burden on the partner to be more understanding, accommodating, and compensating. When clearly, they had understood, accommodated, and compensated themselves into utter mental and physical exhaustion.
The struggles of living with a partner who has untreated ADHD cannot be minimized, nor... more info

Much More Information and Support Needed for Spouses of Adults w/ADHD:

This author admits to having had a tumultuous, chaotic and unhappy marriage for many years and only upon her husband's death and the discovery that her child is ADHD does she come to understand that her husband also was ADD. She then proceeds to acknowledge the difficulties of living with her interesting and intelligent and exciting spouse (ADD spouses are not by definition interesting, intelligent or fun to be with). She carries a lot of guilt for what she should have, could have and would have done... more info

Not a LOT of info, but does promote soul-searching and acceptance:

The author of this book is quite honest about the fact that ADD can lead to frustration, despair and even divorce. What this book does is help those who do NOT have ADD learn to have both a pro-active stand as well as a more empathetic or understanding view of ADD. There are many pages of worksheets where the reader is encouraged to simply write or respond to the text.
For those looking for lots of info about ADD, this book may not provide that. It does contain suggestions for further reading. I... more info

The book my husband didn't want to read...:

At first my husband didn't want to read this book because he thought I was going overboard with buying books about my ADD. Then he saw the picture on the front cover and he said "Nevermind, I'll read it." This book has helped him understand what is going on my mind and why I do the things I do and that it's not something I can just snap my fingers and change. I would recommend this book, especially to other women with ADD who have a messy home for their husbands to read.

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